What Do Escorts Actually Notice About Their Clients?

You've probably spent quite a while looking at her. You may have studied her photographs, read her profile, checked her age, nationality, figure and interests, and perhaps compared her with several other escorts before deciding she was the woman you wanted to meet.

By the time the appointment arrives, you have already formed an impression of her. But here's something clients rarely consider.

She's forming an impression of you too

So, what does an escort actually think when she meets a client for the first time? Is she judging your appearance? Does she care about your age? Is she impressed by your expensive hotel? And what makes one client immediately pleasant to be around while another puts her on her guard?

The answers may be rather different from what clients imagine.

You're Probably Judging Yourself More Than She Is

One of the stranger things about an escort booking is how unequal the introduction can be.

The client has photographs. He has a biography. He may even have spoken to the agency about the woman he's meeting. She doesn't have an online gallery of him. This can make some clients understandably self-conscious.

A man may worry that he's older than the men she would normally date. He may have gained weight, be losing his hair or simply believe that the glamorous young London escort he's about to meet would never notice him in ordinary life.

But that assumes she's evaluating him according to the same criteria he used to choose her. She may not be. An escort isn't selecting a boyfriend from a dating app. She's meeting somebody with whom she has agreed to spend time. Whether that time is enjoyable can depend considerably more on how he behaves than whether he's six feet tall with a perfect physique.

So, Do Escorts Judge Their Clients?

Of course they do!

We all judge people when we meet them. Within seconds we notice whether somebody seems nervous or confident, warm or distant, polite or demanding. We notice how they speak to us, whether they listen and whether their behaviour matches the situation we're in.

An escort is no different. But "judging" doesn't necessarily mean silently awarding a client marks for his face, clothes, watch or waistline. Her first assessment may be much more practical:

Do I feel comfortable with this person?

That question can matter far more than whether he's conventionally handsome.

We Asked: What Do You Notice First?

Ask different escorts and you'll get different answers, which is precisely why there isn't a secret checklist every client is being measured against.

One might notice immediately that a client seems nervous and make an effort to put him at ease. Another may pay particular attention to how he speaks to her. Someone else might notice whether the circumstances match what she was expecting from the booking.

And yes, personal presentation matters!

But there is an important difference between noticing whether somebody has made an effort and expecting every client to look like George Clooney. A man who is freshly showered, appropriately dressed and welcoming has already communicated something about himself: he considered the fact that another person was coming to spend time with him.

That is quite different from physical attractiveness.

The Things Clients Think Will Impress an Escort

This is where things become particularly interesting. Imagine two clients.

One is staying in an enormous suite at one of London's most expensive hotels. There's champagne waiting, he is wearing an expensive watch and dinner is booked somewhere notoriously difficult to get into.

But he spends the evening talking about himself, showing off and treating his companion as though the amount he has spent entitles him to her admiration.

The second client is staying somewhere perfectly ordinary. He's slightly nervous, makes her laugh within five minutes and is genuinely interested when she speaks.

Which one is the more impressive man?

Money can create an extraordinary evening. Great restaurants, beautiful hotels, travel and exciting experiences can all be wonderful parts of companionship. But spending money and being good company aren't the same thing.

An escort who regularly meets successful or wealthy clients is unlikely to be astonished simply because someone owns an expensive watch. She may be much more impressed by somebody who makes her laugh.

Nervous Clients Aren't Necessarily Difficult Clients

Some men worry that being nervous will make a poor first impression. In reality, nervousness can be completely understandable, particularly for someone arranging an escort for the first time.

He may never have done anything like it before. He doesn't know exactly what the first few minutes will feel like and may have spent the journey wondering whether he's making a terrible mistake. A good escort companion understands that.

Sometimes the man who barely knows what to say when the door opens is chatting comfortably twenty minutes later. Confidence can be attractive, but excessive confidence can create its own problems. There is a considerable difference between somebody who feels comfortable in himself and somebody who assumes the evening will revolve entirely around what he wants.

What Actually Makes an Escort Uncomfortable?

This is perhaps the question clients should be more interested in.

Not whether she thinks they're handsome. Whether she feels comfortable.

If an escort arrives and discovers that the circumstances are significantly different from what was arranged, that can immediately change the atmosphere.

The same can happen when somebody is heavily intoxicated, unexpectedly introduces another person into the situation, becomes demanding or begins testing boundaries that were already discussed.

You may also be interested in reading our article: Why Clients Return to the Same Escort for Years.

The Clients Escorts Remember

Perhaps the best way to understand what escorts think about clients is to consider which ones they actually want to see again.

• It isn't necessarily the youngest.
• It isn't necessarily the wealthiest.
• And it certainly isn't necessarily the best-looking.

Often, it is simply someone whose company was enjoyable.

Someone who was easy to talk to. Someone funny. Someone interesting. Someone who treated the escort as a person rather than as a service he had purchased. There are also clients who become memorable for exactly the opposite reasons, of course.

Rudeness is memorable. Poor hygiene is memorable. Making somebody uncomfortable is memorable. The interesting thing is that many of the qualities that determine which category a client falls into cost absolutely nothing.

The Question Clients Might Be Asking Backwards

Perhaps "Will she find me attractive?" isn't actually the most useful question before meeting an escort. A better one might be:

"Will she enjoy spending time with me?"

Those aren't the same question. A professional escort doesn't need every client to resemble the kind of man she might choose romantically in her private life. Professional companionship operates within a different context.

But she is still a person spending time with another person. Conversation matters. Humour matters. Comfort matters. Behaviour matters. And yes, first impressions matter too.

So, if you're looking in the mirror before your escort arrives and wondering what she's going to think of you, by all means make an effort. Have a shower. Put something decent on. Make sure the room is welcoming. Then stop worrying about whether you're handsome enough.

When the door opens, smile and say hello.

What happens during the next few minutes will probably tell her considerably more about you than the face she saw when she walked through it.